You’re here because…

…you’ve caught yourself wondering one too many times, “Is this really all there is?”

On paper, you have the ideal life: a challenging and rewarding career, a beautiful family, a solid group of friends, intelligence, creativity, and ambition. You have perfected the art of having your shit together.

But… that’s not the full story.

What no one else sees is how inexplicably lonely you feel. Even when you’re in a room full of people you care about, and who care about you, you feel invisible.

It’s easy to blame yourself for it: “Why can’t I feel close to people who care about me? What’s wrong with me?”

You can’t even properly enjoy your work success and accomplishments.

This disconnect between your external success and your internal feelings shows up throughout your day…

• You found yourself crying in your car after receiving a promotion – not from joy or pride, but from a bone-deep exhaustion you couldn't explain. Instead of feeling excited, you felt empty.

• Overthinking has become a constant hum in the background of your mind. You overthink a lot of things – conversations with your boss, work mistakes, and tomorrow’s client presentation that has kept you up until 1 a.m.

• When you came to the office 15 minutes early to train the new hire, you had an unsettling thought: “I hope she doesn't end up feeling how I feel.”

And your anxiety and overthinking doesn’t just show up at work – it’s center-stage in your relationships, too.

• Your child’s birthday party is a project to manage, rather than a happy memory to create.

• You manage the family calendar, remember birthdays, plan vacations, and keep the household running. While your partner appreciates this, they've said things like, "You don't have to do everything yourself" or "I can handle this." But you worry important things will fall through the cracks if you delegate – being thorough and prepared has always been your strength. 

• At brunch, your girl friends see the coordinated outfit, hear about your work successes, and make comments about how you “have it all together.” None of them know about the anxiety attack you had in the car right before meeting them.

And then there are the physical symptoms... 

• You wake with jaw pain from grinding your teeth at night

• Your shoulders have taken up residency near your ears

• The tension headaches come so regularly that you keep pain relievers in your desk, car, and nightstand

Your doctor said your sleep and digestive issues are "stress-related," so you diligently made time for the recommended stress-reduction techniques – the meditation app, the weekly yoga class, and the screen-free bedtime routine.

You've even picked up a book or two about coping with anxiety, work-life balance, and mindfulness. You implemented their strategies – deep breathing exercises, time-blocking, bullet journaling. You've mastered self-improvement.

But despite doing everything "right," the anxiety persists…

• You've gotten so good at wearing the “I've got this” mask that colleagues and loved ones don’t question you – instead, they consistently turn to you as the capable problem-solver.

• You've positioned yourself as the helpful friend in social situations – remembering everyone's preferences, organizing gatherings, offering to help.

• You filter and polish what you say, carefully weighing each word – "I have some concerns about the timeline" instead of the more authentic, “I'm overwhelmed and don't know how we'll meet this deadline.”

I’m here to tell you that these well-practiced strategies are actually making you feel worse: more alone, more invisible, and more disconnected from the acceptance you really want.

So, I could give you a list of all the anxiety management techniques we'll practice together – and we both know you'd excel at them, just like pretty much everything else you do.

But here's what I know: you’re already exceptional at researching solutions, following through on practices, and managing symptoms.

You've read the Brené Brown books. You've done the meditation apps. You've tried the breathing techniques.

What you DON’T need is another systemized to-do list for your anxiety.

The real work we'll do together is transforming your relationship with yourself.

And this is where shit gets real.

Because this work isn't about adding more to your to-do list. It’s not about getting “better” at something or “optimizing” a process.

It's about developing a new perspective of yourself and learning to value yourself beyond what you accomplish, earn, or do.

And this is very different from other self-improvement projects.

Unlike the hamster wheel of achievement you've been running on – where each accomplishment only leads to the next goal (and the next…) without lasting happiness or fulfillment – this work actually leads to long-term change.

We aren’t just “managing anxiety symptoms better;” we’re fundamentally changing the relationship with yourself that created the anxiety symptoms in the first place.

This isn’t a temporary solution or a quick-fix. It’s a foundational, root-level change that will become your new way of being.

Here’s what that looks like:

• Saying “I’m actually really anxious about this” to your partner – and discovering that this vulnerability creates the deeper intimacy you’ve been missing, not the rejection you feared.

• Answering “I don’t know” in meetings – and watching colleagues respect your honesty while you stop wasting hours researching topics you could have simply asked about.

• Admitting you’re nervous about your kid’s school conference instead of steering the conversation onto everyone else’s problems – and leaving Sunday brunch feeling genuinely connected to your friends instead of emotionally drained from performing and pretending.

• Apologizing to your child and letting them see you’re human – and raising a kid who feels safe making mistakes because they’ve learned that imperfection doesn’t equal inadequacy.

• Making life choices based on what YOU want – and finally feeling excited about your decisions instead of constantly second-guessing whether you chose “correctly.”

• Expressing real emotions in the moment – and experiencing the relief of being known, appreciated, and liked for who you are, not who you think you should be.

I know this might sound different from other therapy approaches you’ve researched or even tried. You probably have questions about how this actually works, what the process looks like, and whether this approach is right for you. 

Below are the questions I hear most often…